Ainsley Garbutt @ainsleygarbutt
I am a mom of 2, my daughter Esme who was stillborn on July 7th 2015 and my son Ira. I have dedicated a portion of my life to spreading awareness about still birth risks and prevention. When I'm not on MAT leave I work full time as a hair stylist and continue on perfecting my craft. I'm a lover of my family, animals, and making others feel beautiful inside and out!
What do you do?
I love every moment of motherhood! Even when I'm a total mombie! Hah :) I think I am definitely an exception in that department because of the fact my daughter passed away so I soak in every second of it even if it is difficult.
What does your day look like?
Currently my life is flipped upside down, we just moved into our new house and our routine has gone down the toilet. Normally my day consists of taking care of my son, and doing the best I can with what feels like time working against me. I am dying that he is growing up so fast!
Name 3 words to describe you best?
Motivated. Emotional. Survivor.
Which females influence you the most?
This is a really hard question for me believe it or not. I feel like woman of all kinds have been an influence my whole life. Because I do hair for a living, women are an inspiration to me! I have numerous women sit in my chair daily and I find each and every one of them teach me something. My mom obviously has taught me a lot and has shown me what kind of mother and woman I strive to be, and not to be. But in all seriousness, the women I have come to know and love via social media, and in person, who have suffered the loss of their child/children are my biggest influence. I work harder at being open about the death of our daughter to make anyone else feel less alone. I strive to always reach out when I see someone struggling, or in need of a shoulder to cry on. I am influenced by some of the most beautiful souls I have ever met through tragedy, the beauty industry, and my personal life, and I believe it really shapes me into the person I am today.
What struggles have you overcome and how?
The biggest struggle was when my daughter died.. for obvious reasons and others no one could even fathom. It has taken a long time to feel like I have recovered enough to say I have "over come" it, but truthfully I don't think it's something you ever over come. I believe in living again after such a loss, but my life has never been the same since. It took me lots of therapy, support, breakdowns, time off work, loss of friends, and much more to move forward in my life so I could feel like I started living again.
How do you stay positive and focused?
My son is a great distraction, he makes me feel like life can still be good when we've experienced so much bad. My work helps me to be focused, it gives me drive and a sense of positive reinforcement when I see instant gratification from my clients.
Any words of advice for other females out there?
The best advice I could give to any other female out there is to be supportive to other women. Be kind, and encouraging, nothing is more ugly than being jealous and mean. There is enough room in the world for all of us to be happy and successful!
What is one quote you stand by?
"Love is my higher power. Family is my strength. Art is my passion."